Gratitude In Action: 
The Power of Being Kind, Even When You’re Right

Thanksgiving is a season to pause, reflect, and express gratitude. It’s a time to remember that life’s most meaningful victories often come not from being right but from being kind.

The quote, by the Japanese author Haruki Murakami, “Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right,” resonates deeply with me, me, this spirit of gratitude and grace.

Our world celebrates debate, and being right can feel like a triumph. Yet, what does it cost? In our quest to prove a point, we risk hurting others and damaging relationships and trust. Arguments often hinge on perspective, shaped by experiences, values, and beliefs—our realities. When we dismantle someone else’s viewpoint in an argument, we might inadvertently strip away a part of their identity. This realization should make us pause and reconsider our approach.

Gratitude invites us to approach interactions differently. Instead of wielding our truths like weapons, we can lead with understanding and empathy. Winning an argument is fleeting; the impact of how we win—or choose not to—lasts much longer. This understanding should make us more mindful of our actions.

When disagreements arise, pause and truly listen. Let gratitude for the other person’s willingness to engage shape your response. Understanding their perspective shows respect for their reality, even if you disagree. Before responding, ask clarifying questions. This not only defuses tension but also opens the door to deeper connection. Being curious shows humility and gratitude for the opportunity to learn from another’s viewpoint. Winning isn’t always the ultimate goal. Sometimes, preserving a relationship or fostering mutual respect is a far more significant achievement. The value of these relationships should guide our actions.

Thanksgiving reminds us of the values that unite us—family, love, resilience, and community. Even in disagreements, focusing on common ground can transform conflict into connection. Whether you agree or not, expressing appreciation for the conversation is a powerful act of kindness. It acknowledges the other person’s courage to share their truth.

This holiday season, let us be grateful for what we have and the opportunity to choose kindness in every interaction. Remember, every heart you touch with compassion is a victory far more significant than any argument won.
May your table be full of love, your conversations rich with understanding, and your heart filled with gratitude.